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Greg Stone, managing director of Taming the Wolf Institute, is the author of Taming the Wolf a guide to conflict resolution in the tradition of Saint Francis. He graduated with a Masters in Dispute Resolution from the Straus Institute at the Pepperdine University Law School. He specializes in faith-based approaches to conflict resolution.
Resolving Unintentional Immigration Insult
Yesterday, on the Facebook Page for the United States Conference of Catholic Bishops I encountered a blog post that struck me as quite divisive, even insulting.
Fr. Allan’s Blog reprinted an article by Fr. Bruce Nieli regarding immigration. While I am certain Fr. Bruce, Fr. Allan, and the USCCB did not intend to purposely insult Catholic readers, it appeared to me that they managed to do so—if my reaction can be considered a benchmark. (Dozens of comments echoed my sentiments, so I believe I am not a “Lone Ranger” on this issue.)
While I hope Taming readers will read the entire Fr. Nieli post, I will quote the first line that raised concern:
“Ouch,” I reacted. I could not see this analysis helping to open a dialogue. It certainly would not soften any hearts.
Did Fr.Nieli really intend to insult readers by arguing the conflict over immigration arises from the cultural ignorance of Americans who can’t be bothered to get to know people? Was his implication, that Americans are just hard-hearted and insulated, meant to insult? When he goes on to admonish Americans to follow their own motto: “out of many, one,” did he mean to be condescending?
It seemed Fr. Nieli was telling us twelve million migrants entering the country illegally did not really constitute a problem that needed to be addressed but rather the problem was the cultural insensitivity of the American people who are in need of a lesson in Christian charity. It occurred to me to ask, why not just slap a cream pie in the face of the audience or kick them in the shins to get them warmed up?
Perhaps the conflict is heating up because some, like Fr. Nieli, suffer from tone deafness. Perhaps they have become culturally isolated and unable to recognize when they have insulted another.
Assuming Fr. Nieli is a man of good intentions, and being mindful of my checkered past, filled with incidents of insulting others inadvertently, I turned to possible solutions. I gave thought to how I might rewrite his article or speech:
Fr. Nieli might say:
Fr. Nieli, would you agree this approach might bear sweeter fruit?
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